I wanted to share here that little personal piece in the hope of helping others who might struggle as well. And get help from the ones who don’t!
I underestimated the impact of my « productive self » on my daily life around family and friends. And I am struggling .
For years, I felt there was a disconnect between my professional life and personal life.
I like productivity and minimalism. I like code that runs and works every time. I love taking quick decisions and moving on to the next challenge.
That was easy to take into account professionally: I became a productivity advocate, started a business as an Asana consultant and wrote a book on minimalism.
But as a father, husband and friend, I am struggling. I can’t apply the same systems. I can’t expect the same passion from people around me. I can’t choose the fastest solution every time and look for efficiency everywhere.
I grunt when a friend doesn’t want to use Zoom for a quick call. I get annoyed when picking up a restaurant among friends takes too long. I get impatient when my kids don’t act when I tell them to.
It took me years to realize it, and I am now starting a journey to change and make sure my kids don’t see me as the « productive jerk of a father » they have.
Does that resonate with anyone? Any advice?